They say a woman’s work is never done. A hectic work schedule, combined with trying to balance other areas of your life, may lead to you feeling like you are spinning too many plates in the air at once.
With kids, family, work, chores, and the many responsibilities that we have to fulfill, there never seems to be enough time to let alone think about, never mind fulfill our own needs or desires. Yet, it’s crucial for our health, productivity and wellbeing, so why then, do so many of us feel guilty taking ‘Me’ time? Shouldn’t we instead feel guilty when we don’t???
Without taking some ‘Me’ time, this can and often leads to women experiencing depression, anxiety, or just a general feeling that you are worn out. Besides how it affects us personally, being worn out also means that your performance and attentiveness to all you have to do will suffer! Irritation becomes common, as we feel overwhelmed and unable to deal with the stressors of the day, which can affect all of our relationships negatively! Knowing this helps us to shift those guilty feelings from finding and taking ‘Me’ time, towards when we DON’T find and take the ‘Me’ time we all desperately need and deserve.
Everyone is different, and each individual has different ideas about how to find time for ‘Me’. This is a guide to help show you how to make and take some ‘Me’ time, and why you should do so guilt free. The solutions below are not the only ones but may give you some ideas of how to find space and time in your life, just for you.
Utilize The Time You Have
If you have errands to run or appointments to keep but find yourself early or waiting around in your car, make use of the time. For example, read a book or practice meditation. These two activities require a certain amount of tranquility and peace, so why not use your window of opportunity to do this. Of course, you could just listen to some music and relax.
Alternatively, if you were in a more productive mood you could just catch up on paperwork that you have to do. This is your time; you can do with it what you wish. By carrying out this task now, you are freeing up time at a later date.
Make A Date With Yourself (And Keep It!)
Once a week, take time to do the things you like to do alone. To do this you need to learn to say no to the people in your life, or learn to delegate your duties to someone else (mainly talking childcare here people!). This will enable you to have some time to relax.
Go and grab a drink somewhere with a good friend, get some exercise, or even just disappear to another part of the house. Anything you can think of to do that would enable you to free up space in that busy head of yours.
This can simply be an extension of the previous where you make a date with yourself. Once a month, go treat yourself, this can be anything you wish, such as shopping, a spa day, a movie, or even just spending time with your friends, catching up on their lives. This is totally your choice. Go and see the great outdoors, spend a day cycling. The point is this is ‘Me’ time.
You would think that these tips on finding ‘Me’ time would be obvious. However, this time can often be difficult to find. A 2014 UK study looking at working mothers found 51% of them went weeks without relaxing on their own.
When further questioned, nearly 75% of the 2000 women felt they lived their whole lives for other people. Some women are lucky enough to have partners and family to rely on to take some of the strain; others are not so fortunate. However, there are still things you can do to make some ‘Me’ time in your life.
Learn to Say No
No, means setting boundaries and limiting what you will or are willing to do in a single day or week. This may mean having to say no to some things, believe me, I know how hard this can be in the beginning, but considering how much your relationships and wellness matters, it may be well worth it! If you struggle with this, no worries, you’re not alone! This is a common struggle for many and that’s why I’ve created a SPECIAL FREE GIFT JUST FOR YOU! One that will help you discover the transformative power of “no”, discover how to reclaim your time, and learn how to say “no” gracefully (without losing your friends!). Download your copy of the NEW “The Beautiful No” here,
The best tip you all need to know is…
By planning your day and week you can identify opportunities for ‘Me’ time. Making lists and looking at your week would help you to see those times where gaps appear in your schedule. Organization can be the key to doing this.
The more you practice doing this the more you will learn where you can fit things in. It could be as simple as going for a walk for 20 minutes.
On that walk, take a look at the world around you. We live in a beautiful world, whether it is a flower or a smile on a person’s face. It is all there for us, you just need to be able to see it.
Now go get yourself some ‘Me’ time Guilt Free and make it a healthy habit